Ways to save a marriage-keep your options open!

All too often couples are lost when trying to figure out how to stop the divorce. It really is a tragedy that divorce is so easy in our society. There are truly times when it is a necessity. Unfortunately, a lot of marriages coule be saved with the right kind of counseling and advice.

So many couples come to the conclusion that divorce is the only answer when nothing could be further from the truth. Any relationship can be saved with a reasonable chance of success if the commitment is there. Try to REALLY understand when things began to unravel in your marriage.

Could you have done anything differently to keep this from happening? Of course! Could your partner be at fault too? Sure. Accepting responsibility has to start with each person. We all have short memories and long fingers (as in pointing at the other person).

A good starting place is to ask friends to objectively give you their advice and observations about what you may have done wrong. Ask them to tell it like it is without holding anything back. Your partner should do the same. You can stop a divorce if both people are truly willing to be completely vulnerable and honest about their faults.

Actions speak louder than words. The choices that are made at this point in your relationship will determine if it comes to an end or not. Merely talking about the problems and not fixing them is obviously not going to work.

So how can you stop the divorce if you are already in the process or contemplating it? The simple answer is that it depends on the circumstances. Difficult times in relationships usually happen because one party is not willing to accept responsibility for their actions.

The purpose of this article is not to condemn but offer advice in a constructive way. Accepting responsibility for what has happened is a two way street. We are all human and make mistakes. The challenge is to renew trust and establish some kind of a frame work for your relationship that you can both live with.

If you have had an affair then accept the reality that the special bond and trust that you once shared has been broken. There is no way around it. Many couples never get through it but it can be done. Denying that you destroyed the other persons trust is something that you will just have to accept. The emotional and financial cost of a divorce is never something to be taken lightly.

So many couples come to the conclusion that divorce is the only answer when nothing could be further from the truth. Any relationship can be saved with a reasonable chance of success if the commitment is there. Try to REALLY understand when things began to unravel in your marriage.

Could you have done anything differently to keep this from happening? Of course! Could your partner be at fault too? Sure. Accepting responsibility has to start with each person. We all have short memories and long fingers (as in pointing at the other person).

A good starting place is to ask friends to objectively give you their advice and observations about what you may have done wrong. Ask them to tell it like it is without holding anything back. Your partner should do the same. You can stop a divorce if both people are truly willing to be completely vulnerable and honest about their faults.

Actions speak louder than words. The choices that are made at this point in your relationship will determine if it comes to an end or not. Merely talking about the problems and not fixing them is obviously not going to work.

Search out the best relationship advice you can find and get counseling if you need it. There is no shame in that. Is your relationship worth the effort? Only you and your partner can make that decision. Any couple contemplating divorce is naturally going to have a whole boat load of emotions to deal with. Anger, resentment, discouragement and hope are just a few of them. Be prepared for depression and get some help with it from your family physician if it's required.

Last but not least preparing for divorce requires an awful lot of energy. Look for resources that will help save my marriage should be your first priority. You may fail but in the end we all get one chance in this life time. Don't make the mistake of ever having to say that you didn't give it your all.