Is my relationship worth saving? How to know for sure.

Every couple goes through difficult times when it just doesn’t seem worth it any more. That’s only natural when 2 people are living together or dating. If you have been fighting a lot you may feel like throwing in the towel. So how can you decide if there is any hope?

You will never get someone back if the topic of divorce, seperation or braking up is constantly being mentioned. That is basically admitting defeat before you even start the battle. Figuring out how to patch up your relationship is hard enough as it is. Make a vow to one another that you put all your energy into making things work again. It's takes that kind of a commitment to succeed.

The key to saving a relationship always revolves around the amount of effort you are willing to put into it. Couples break up all the time over some of the silliest things when you really stop and think about it. Any time you are in love you are going to get hurt. That’s just the nature of the beast. That’s also the joy!

Ask yourself “am I really doing everything I can to make this work”? Not is he or she but you! It’s so much easier to point out other peoples faults. Being hard on ourselves is never an easy thing to do. Saving a long distance relationship is even harder because you need that close intimate contact with each other to really get down to the “nuts and bolts” of the problems you are going through. Just remember, none of us are perfect. We all need help with something in our lives!

Over time, couples find their love deepens to the point that just being together is so special. If your relationship had gotten to that point before the problems began try to work at it some more. Very few couples ever get to the point they know each others needs so intimately and completely.

The “trust issue” is always at the heart of any relationship. If you can’t trust your partner any more than there may not be much hope. Infidelity always ranks at the top of problems that couples struggle with when asking themselves how to save a broken relationship. Some couples can get through it. Many others never do. The best advice is to be patient if your partner was at fault.

Are you able to trust them? Are they able to trust you if you were the one that was unfaithful? If you just can’t answer that question affirmatively then you may need to consider marriage counseling seriously or couples therapy.

Finally, we all have to make the decision on whether our relationship can continue or not. No one else knows all the circumstances. Ultimately, any relationship boils down to this: can you and your partner forgive each other to ever make it work again?