
Most people don’t have any idea how difficult ”breaking up and moving on” is until they have been through it. It can be almost as bad as mourning the death of a loved one. Somehow, you have got to be able to move on but that is easier said than done.
If you don’t have a strong support system it’s even harder but everyone survives the process. That’s not to say that there won’t be any permanent scars or things that you may never get over. The best way to handle it is to find some counseling if you don’t have anyone to talk to.
There are no set rules that work for everyone. However, you should be able to get through this tough time in your life if you are willing to deal with the pain right away. Shoving your feelings down is just a temporary fix. Get as much ”break up support” as you possibly can.
Dwelling on the past will just keep you mired in the process that much longer. It’s only human nature to treasure what we can see, touch and experience. Fear of the unknown is hard for everyone because it involves taking risks. Some are better at it than others. Don’t hold onto a past relationship that you weren’t really happy in anyway.
One of the best things you can do is to not become a hermit. Even if you are sad, not being around your friends and family is the worst thing you can do. Force yourself to go out if you have to.
The other nice thing about being with friends and family is they often times have insights on ”how to deal with breaking up” that you don’t. They also know you better than anyone else and know how to cheer you up and offer support. We are all different. Give other people that know you well the chance to lift you up!
Relationship breakup puts a lot of people through fear and misery. Expecting anything less would be foolish. It takes time to get over it. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you are still struggling with a breakup even a year or two later. The best advice is probably to get back on the horse, start living again and keep riding into the sunset! You will get through it. Learn from your mistakes and “don’t waste the pain”!